"Thanks for MY child"

Raising children within the sanctity of marriage, or as a couple affords the privilege of sharing responsibilities; dual diaper duty, live in baby-sitter and splitting financial burdens, hence, R. Kelly’s desire to go “half on a baby.” Now, every sweet deal has its sour spots, so things don’t always go according to plans.

One of the major parental faux pas (in my opinion), would be disharmony amongst the parental units displayed amidst the children. When I was growing up, I constantly heard adults say, “Stay in a child’s place and out of grown folks face,” but parents today seem to give their kids a front row seat to their drama. A large component of this disharmony is when one parent overrides the authority of the other (in the child’s presence). I’m sure we can all bare witness to the following:

Child: “can I have some cookies? “
Dad: “no, it’s about time for dinner.”
Mom: “oh, he can have the cookies…it’s not going to hurt-eat the cookie baby.”

Now, children are prone to gravitate more toward the ‘pleasing’ parent; the one that lets them have their way, so before long things start sounding like this:

Child: (eating cookies before dinner in the fathers presence)
Dad: “what did I tell you about eating snacks right before dinner?”
Child: “mom already said I could have them.”
Dad: (sitting in silence)

The child in this situation has been taught to listen to one parent over the other; causing them to lose respect for the ‘uncooperative’ parent who doesn’t give in to their desires. I’ve seen things go as far as the child telling one parent when the other parent disciplines them, knowing the ‘pleasing’ parent will come to their rescue. This is a major problem people; LIFE lessons are being taught in childhood. Freud once said, “Give me a child between the ages of 1-7 and after that you can have them back.” Why, because these are the crucial developmental years, the time of molding, training for adulthood (Proverbs 22:6).

Co-habitating, Co-parenting means Co-operation on all levels! Parents have got to start looking at the detrimental affects their behaviors have on the children their raising. There is a need to communicate HOW you're going to handle these types of situations; an understanding needs to agreed upon. I have the 'pleasure' of being the sole provider for my sons, so in addition to being the only one paying for everything, I'm also the only one making decisions. Parents may no agree on everything, but they must agree that respect for the other parent must be maintained at all times, and I think that's easily done by putting on a smile and tightening those lips in the presence of the child and talking things over behind the curtain.

Now the question is what do you do when you’ve not been albe to form this allegiance with your co-parent and have been labeled the ‘uncooperative’ one; you've come to feel like you've been duped because the two-parent unit you thought you were apart of has dissipated and all you hear your mate saying is, "thanks for MY child."

Welcome to the Knewness

I've had conversations and even read other bloggers as they've pondered "why they write." I'll admit, when I started this blogging thing I was caught up in the 'knewness'from the different layouts, topics, to the comments, every bit of it was exciting, but then I started to assess my being here...especially since I'm not a writer; what was the purpose, besides it just being fun? I've come to realize that I don't do this thing for me, but because of me; because of who God made me. It's not just fun, but I'm here for whomever;
- may read.
- may laugh.
- may cry.
- may remember.
- may tell a friend.
- may learn.
- may apply.


I don't write just for my 'health', but for the wealth of my people...and I pray you get rich everytime you read me. This has been a WONDERFUL journey, I've met some great minds; some I hope to continue calling 'friend.' It's amazing how much we're able to impact lives through this simple pleasure. I know we all have our reasons for being here, and will do this thing regardless of how many comments we get from day to day, or in spite of the traffic detected from a site-meter. I think there's so much POWER in this outreach tool, people that may never make their presence known may have been possitively effected by you, so keep doing what you're doing. I hope you guys dig the knew layout...I thought it was a perfect fit.

Now, with all that crap out of the way...I'd like to welcome you all to a Brand Knew Day!!!

Female Gangs

Call me sheltered, but I really didn't know there were female gangs out and about; or knew, but never gave the issue any serious attention. Gang violence seems to be on the rise especially in cities like Chicago, Miami, LA and NY where girls are branching out and forming their own exclusive girl-gangs! Now, despite the fact that we should be long past the whole 'gang' business, the idea that girls feel the need to do this is amazing.

Young boys typically join gangs for protection (from gangs) they also join to feel a sense of acceptance from the 'family' like setting. I personally don't think girls are faced with the same social concerns or challenges, at least not in the same way. Boys feel the NEED to be tough and gangs supply the means to do so, but I've never seen girls as having that concern. I DO however believe most girls get involved with gangs for the boys and/or girls (as to imply bi-sexual tendencies amongst these groups)

I'm sure the havens provide a place to escape to, especially within urban environments plagued with crime and drugs, but to put yourself right in the middle of more crime and drugs is beyond me. This is NOT what little girls are made of, so can you guys help me out with this...WHAT'S UP WITH GIRL-GANGS???

Obsessive-Compulsions

Hey guys, this post was inspired by something I read on Opinionated Diva's page; a tag where she mentioned can-goods being in size order (from a movie). I cracked up because I'm the same way, so since Honey-Libra said I'm always serious...hahah...I'm going light today, (see what I do for you guys).

Here is a run-down but first,

Obsessive-Compulsions:
is a psychiatric disorder most commonly characterized by a subject's obsessive, distressing, intrusive thoughts and related compulsions (tasks or "rituals") which attempt to neutralize the obsessions. Thus it is an anxiety disorder. It is listed by the World Health Organization as one of the top twenty most disabling illnesses in terms of lost income and diminished quality of life.

Welcome to crazy world:

1) All rolls (toilet paper, paper towels...etc.) MUST be in the UNDER position, if it's NOT I'll put it that way...(even in your house) LOL. or, I'll just HAVE to leave the room.

2) All my bills (money) have to be in order...from amount to position...I can't even put them in my wallet until everything is lined up properly.

3) I MUST have all my can-goods in size order and grouped together and the same goes for everything else in my cabinets...boxes, cups, plates...they must be in size order and grouped (rice's with rice's and so on)

4) NO WIRE HANGERS---(((((EVER)))))...just kidding, but 10 points if you know where that line's from! Anyway, I CAN'T STAND OPEN DOORS, and this is probably my BIGGEST quirk, but I'll have to break it down.

a) Kitchen cabinets MUST be CLOSED...HELLO, CLOSE THE CABINETS PLEASE!!! I'm so serious, if I'm at your house sitting in the living room with a view into your kitchen and see a cabinet door opened...you might have to put me out to prevent me from RUNNING in there and closing it. (oh, don't be so judgmental).

b)Closet Doors...OK, I'd SERIOUSLY KILL OVER THIS ONE! I'm not playing people this is an actual FEAR. I don't PLAY WITH OPEN CLOSET DOORS; I mean, there's really no REASON for them to be opened ANYWAY... they're units used for STORAGE... so store your crap and shut the FRIGGEN DOOR... at least when I'm there. And as if this issue couldn't get worse, you guys know what freaks me out MORE then an OPEN closet door? A PARTIALLY OPENED CLOSET DOOR! Don't talk about me...I have a ((((DISORDER))))

Ok, now that you guys know why I'm still single...please make me feel a little better by telling me your quirks, compulsions, DISORDERS!

WAKEEEEEEE UPPPPPP!!!!

"Desocialization and Deculturation/Need for Nigga' Consciousness-By Nigga Consciousness I am referring to the internalized inferiority of members of Black cultural group brought about by the internalization of a dehumanized and degraded cultural legacy. The function of desocialization in service of White Domination is to remove you from yourself and your historical image (diassociate) and associate you with a different image which can be manipulated, controlled and oppressed (re-association), allowing them to make us who they want us to be. Dr. Amos N. Wilson calls this the Niggerization of the Afrikan (Falsification of African Consciousness)." ("Why Our Children Hate Us")



A.D.D/A.D.H.D and all other labels used to suppress and stagnate the mental growth of our children. THIS IS A "FICTICIOUS" DISORDER PEOPLE, designed by the oppressive social orders mentioned above. There's NOTHING wrong with our children that good old fashioned PARENTING can't control, but we've allowed them to be lead around by drugs instead, and then given a CHECK for it; paying you to ruin your child’s life...we're selling our babies for a monthly fee. WAKEEEEE UPPPP!

When my youngest son was about 7-years-old, his teacher told me I should have him tested for A.D.D, because he "doesn't pay attention in class!" WHAT? He also added how bright he was and how he seemed to excel in Science and Math, but lacks focus and the ability to follow directions or complete assignments because he's not paying attention. NOW, if my son had been a little white boy, he may have been considered a genius who just couldn't be contained by the structure of the educational system.

I kindly told the teacher, who was a Black Man, that there was NOTHING wrong with my son and if there WERE, I'd have been the one to tell him about it, beings as though I've known him far longer then his little 6 month experience being his teacher. We've got to take responsibility for our children and their behaviors and not allow outsiders to dictate their future.

"White Supremacy seeks to instill a sense of White superiority in all people while concurrently destroying the image and significance of our group's cultural heritage (instilling Black inferiority). Indeed, White Supremacy and culturally/historically authentic Black conscious CANNOT occupy the same space. Therefore, White Supremacy is reliant on the existence of an internalized nigga'consciousness."

WE REALLY HAVE TO WAKE UP BLACK PEOPLE; STOP SWALLOWING WHAT'S BEING FEED TO US, ABOUT US AND OUR CHILDREN! HOW CAN SUCH A BACKWARDS SOCIETY TELL YOU WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOUR CHILD...THINK ABOUT IT! THERE'S AN AGENDA, AND WE'RE GETTING PAID TO PLAY INTO IT! WAKEEEEE UPPPPP!

NOTHING...

I might actually sit out this week, but I'll see you on your page...lata-gata's

Strange Fruit

The City of 'brotherly love' strikes again; here is the latest foolishness going on in our streets:

"A murderous epidemic of gun violence and one of the city's major tourist destinations came face to face Saturday when 1) a teenage boy was gunned down just feet from the line at Pat's King of Steaks."

"The 14-year-old victim was riding his bike with a group of friends when a car approached the group from behind. 2) All the boys except Law (victim) moved to the side without a problem, but Law was last to get out of the way. 3) That's when words were exchanged; police said, the driver of the vehicle allegedly pulled a gun and shot Law. Homicide Sgt. Tim Cooney said law had raised his hands and shrugged his shoulders, ("Tykeem was shrugging his shoulders like, "where do you want me to go?" Cooney said) just before being shot."

4) Charles Meyers, 18, allegedly shot the boy for no other reason than 'road rage,'

"The shooting took place in broad daylight shortly after 4 p.m. and an officer with the 3rd District happened to be directly behind Meyer's car...he was in uniform in his person vehicle heading to report for his shift; Meyers was arrested a short distance from the shooting" -5) there were two other people in the car with Meyers.

1) I was actually angered at the mentioning of the famed ‘pat’s king of steaks’ (not even worth capitalizing to me). What relevance does this have to the situation, except the fact that white America wants our foolishness kept in our neck of the woods?

2) This is the attitude we’ve taught our children...”you’ve got the ‘right-of-way’ and you don’t have to rush for NOBODY… make em wait.” We breed disrespect within our children.

3) Again, to be ill-mannered is a norm amongst our youth, so it’s nothing to argue…give back talk; consequently, subjecting themselves to the scaring-‘nigga-moment’

4) “ROAD RAGE”… here we go with the labels, which have become a societal justification for foolishness…I wonder if they’re going to create a pill to combat this new disorder- (road rage).

5) Mass-hysteria, Mass-confusion, Mass-insanity; violence has gone far way from being isolated and individual, and although only ONE person pulled the trigger, the other TWO men did nothing...birds of a feather usually flock together…these guys unity in disharmony…for the greater destruction of the community.

“There are several key issues in our collective desocialization that have contributed to the maldevelopment of contemporary generations of Black people and hinder our ability to reproduce generations capable of mounting the types of resistance and struggle needed for our collective” (taken from “Why Our Children Hate Us”)

- Those words have held my mind in suspension from the moment I read them; its implication is the perfect solution to the ever-present thought of why these last 2 (at least) generations of Black people are what they/we are…is it possible that we’ve become so damaged that we can no longer even bare good fruit? Have we allowed even our blood-line to be tainted...destroying even the possibility; have we doomed ourselves to the constant of strange fruit.

JUST GOT THIS INFO-" Law's four friends moved over, but Law stopped in front of the vehicle, got off his bike and moved to the passenger side of the car, according to police.

"The driver pulled out a handgun, reached across the passenger and fired one shot through the passenger window, striking Tykeem in the chest," said Homicide Sgt. Tim Cooney. The boy staggered onto the sidewalk and died...AND THE SHOOTER WAS WHITE!!!


THIS LIL TIDBIT OF INFO CHANGES THINGS DRASTICALLY, so I'll readdress the points:

1) STILL STANDS!!!

2) NO LONGER APPLIES; obviously this was a racially movtivated act, in which the driver PROBABLY said something to cause the boy to get off the bike and come over.

3) SEE THE ABOVE!!!

4) ROAD-RAGE = RACIST SON OF A -BEEP!!!

5) THEY WERE ALL RACIST...MASS RACISM!!!


p.s. HAVE YOU GUYS GOTTEN THIS BOOK YET??? If not, I can see about ordering them from the Black & Noble Book Store... which is a WORTHY Black owned business to support...so let's do our part.

Random

I've got NOTHING today, so...

What's your screen-saver?
Mine is a picture of the MY man Idris (ONLY I LOVE HIM) did you read those words kiki, sheletha, deep and all the rest of you who've tried to claim my past boyfriends...lol.

He's got a b-day coming up soon (mind ya business...don't need to know everything bout my boo). He'll be 35 (he's so precious) anyway...what do you guys have up on your screen?

Dear Diary

Hey guys...this is a real 'dear diary moment'...blog-world has become my exhale...so I'm sittin up in my room breathing right now. Thinking about that first love...

I ate this man people...he was my sustenance. He was the rule all else were exceptions; He's designed the floorplan all others must follow...he just IS.

I changed this post from yesterday to reflect my thoughts today. The 'one' we've all got him/her coming or the've gone, but I've learned to believe in soul-mates...some people just seem to fit perfectly together.


So I've been thinking about mine this weekend and boy, does that man affect me, but again...this too will pass, but until that day comes...here's what I'ma do:

Some of my fav's

Here are a couple of my favorite videos and songs from back in the day.

GROOVE THEORY: I think every girl in the world had a thing for Brice (I think that's how you spell it)



DeBarge: I LOVE EVERYTHING THEY DID... but this is like the only video I can find.


AND WHO DIDN'T LOVE THEM??? Blackstreet



AND LAST, BUT NOT LEAST...ONE OF MY ALL TIME FEEL GOOD FAV'S (be surprised)




HAVE A WONDERFUL WEEKEND EVERYBODY... I'll be taking the boys to the And 1 Mix Tape tour tomorrow...FUN!!

But, My Mama Said...

Don’t eat before going to bed, you’ll have nightmares! As children we tend to hold tight to our parents words like a prayer book. Although we may not have really listened then we unconsciously apply and even pass on these ‘parental urban legends’ to our own children.

Urban Legend: “is similar to a modern folklore consisting of stories often thought to be factual by those circulating them. Urban legends are not necessarily untrue, but they are often distorted, exaggerated, or sensationalized.”

I wouldn’t necessarily say our parents lied to us…maybe they just told what was told to them, or maybe they used that ‘prayer book’ influence and stretched the truth a bit to keep us in line. In either case, we find ourselves still doing or telling what ‘mama/papa said.

What parental legends have you held to or passed on to your children?

Cause I'ma W-O-M-A-N!!!

Oh, that sugar and spice…everything nice, if that’s what little girls are made of, what’s in a woman?

This is something I’ve been fighting over for some years now…Gender Equality, or the convient lack of. This will be a two part post with part #1 dealing with Rape and Sexual Assault while part #2 will focus on Domestic Violence.

HISTORY: Around the end of the Eighteenth century a European writer by the name of Mary Wollstonecraft gained notoriety for her outward expression and egalitarian views on gender. She wrote a controversial pamphlet entitled, “The Vindication of the Rights of Woman,” and pretty much became the nations first “feminist.”

-‘The rights of woman,’ undoubtedly a worthy enough cause to argue during that period of enlightenment. Moving past pre and post Civil War and WWII right into the liberation that was gained through educational advancement and equal opportunity employment laws; the 1950’s brought about a (k)new day for American woman (mainly European women of course).

-Now, all of these things were done in an effort to end disparity amongst the sexes; dispell the idea of women being the 'weaker' and needing the protection of or being under the control of a man..."anything you can do,I can do better, I can do anything better than you," well, not exactly, by you get my point.

-Now, with regard to rape, which is a very serious offense, but with layers (I'll be focused on the bolded layers):
-layer 1)Attacked by a total stranger.
-layer 2) Date or Aquantence rape
-layer 3) Relationship rape (yes, there's such a thing)


Why is it socially acceptable for a woman to entertain the company of a man, engage in whatever level of physical pleasure she desires, decide she’s not really ready OR interested in going “all the way” (sometimes after having gone almost ALL THE WAY) say NO, and expect ALL the blame to be placed on the male for not having:

1) The BETTER sense to know that NO MEANS NO.

2) For not being emotionally STRONGER and stop himself as soon as those words were spoken and

3) For not being compassionate and realizing how SENSATIVE and DELICATE women are

Where’s the equality? Where’s the shared responsibility? What happened to the two adults, forget things being consensual because that's a given when the woman decided to engage? Never knowingly put yourself in a situation you can’t get out of; if you KNOW you don’t play to have sex with a guy, there’s really no need playing after midnight (in house) games; if the dates over GO HOME (alone). What’s the point in starting things you KNOW you’re not going to finish…then expect the man to be the ‘bigger’ person and stop?

Seriously, in situations like this…I’d give the woman just as much jail time as the man…it’s accountability ladies…it’s EQUALITY!

With regard to the third level of rape (relationship), I used to think this was a joke, but there are thousands of women around the world who've reported being raped by their husband or boyfriend. I'm not condoning this level of violence by ANY means and I know there are husbands who view their wife as personal property (WRONG) you BELONG to each other (so says the Bible), but at the same time there are TOO many woman using sex as a means of controlling their HUSBANDS and that's not the character of a WIFE...each is to esteem the other greater then themselves...that's EQUALITY!

This injustice is so damaging, because it creates fear and uncertainty within male and female encounters. Men can fear getting intimate with a women, because he never knows if he'll be accused of rape. Then there are women who have sexual incounters THEN a month or so down the line say they were raped...because they didn't really want to do it...man, the whole word 'Rape' is being reshaped everytime I turn around. I personally think rape is an act of PHYSICAL FORCE... not MENTAL. If a woman ALLOWS a man to convince her to have sex with him when she REALLY didn't want to...she was NOT raped. This serious issue has been adjusted...and readjusted over time and it's to the point where a man can look at a woman for a minute TOO long and she can accuse him of some form of rape. CRAZY!

NOTE: AGAIN, if you're a women and are uncertain about a sexual exchange with a man PLEASE think about things before hand...don't make your issue a joint problem...KNOW YOURSELF... know your boundaries and your weaknesses. STD's aren't the only things we need to protect ourselves from...you've got to protect your heart and your mind...so make sure you're WELL informed about the situations you decide to get YOURSELF into.


(Don't be mad at me 13, (lol) I just had to talk about this)

Lyrically Affected #3 (Adore)

This song is the ultimate...one of my all time favorites...it's words are everything love between two people should be. Who wants to be loved when you can be ADORED!!! The bolded lines are the ones that have the greatest affect on me.

Until the end of time
I'll be there 4 u
U own my heart and mind
I truly adore u
If god one day stroke me blind
Your beauty i'd still see
Love is 2 weak 2 define
Just what u mean 2 me

From the first moment i saw u
Ooh, i knew u where the 1
That night i had 2 call u
I was rappin' till the sun came up
Tellin' u just how fine u look
In a word, u were sex
All of my cool attitude u took
My body was next
U made love 2 me
Like u where afraid
Was u afraid of me?
Was i the first?
Was i your every fantasy?
That's why

Until the end of time
I'll be there 4 u
U own my heart and mind
I truly adore u
If god one day stroke me blind
Your beauty i'd still see
Love is 2 weak 2 define
Just what u mean 2 me

When we be makin' love
I only hear the sounds
Heavenly angels cryin' up above
Tears of joy pourin' down on us
They know we need each other
They know u are my fix
I know, that u know that i ain't cheatin' baby
They know this is serious
I ain't funkin' just 4 kicks, no
This condition i got is crucial, crucial baby
U could say that i'm a terminal case
U could burn up my clothes
Smash up my ride, well maybe not the ride
But i got 2 have your face
All up in the place
I'd like 2 think that i'm a man of exquisite taste
A hundred percent italian silk imported egyptian lace
But nothin' baby, i said nothin' baby could compare
2 your lovely face
Do u know what i'm sayin' 2 ya this evening
I'm just tryin' 2 say
I'm just tryin' 2 say
That until, until the end of time
I'll be there 4 u
I'll be there 4 u
On my heart, on my mind, (truly adore u)
I truly adore u (darlin')
U don't know what you're mean 2 me
Do ya
Do ya
Do ya heeee
Until the end of time i'll be there 4 u
Adore u

Can i talk 2 u? {{chorus repeated in background}}
Tell u what u mean 2 me
Every time u wander
I'll be your eyes so u can see
I wanna show u things
That i show no other, i wanna be
More than, more than your mother
More than your brother
I wanna be (like no) like no other
If u need me, i'll never leave
I know, that u know, without u there is no me
There is no me
Without u there is no sea
There is no shore
Love is 2 weak 2 define how much i adore
U, child
U, child
The last words u hear
The last words u hear

(until the end of time)
I'll be there for you, baby
(until the end of time)

Be with me darlin' til the end of time (until the end of time)
I'll give u my heart
I'll give u my mind
I'll give u my body (until the end of time)
I'll give u my time (until the end of time)
(until the end of time)

4 all time i am with u
U are with me
(until the end of time)
U are with me, u are with me

The Business of Black Businesses

The economic growth of Black America is something I take seriously...BUY BLACK!!! BUY BLACK, BUY BLACK, but what if black ain't quit right?

I attemped to get a platter from a black owned resturant yesterday evening...the place was about to close and the food was down to NOTHING, literally. I asked the young man at the counter what did they have, because the visible food trays were practically empty.There was also an older man fixing other plates..here's pretty much how things went down.

Me: Do you guys have any more sweet potatoes

Y.M: yes...right there (pointing to empty tray) we don't give that much anyway.

Me: There's nothing in there

O.M: "jokingly" why you tryna start trouble

Me: I'm not starting trouble...I'm just trying to make sure I get what I'm paying for...it's an exchange.

O.M: well everybody pays...so you saying you don't trust us?

Me: It's not about trust...it's about business.

WHY, do black business owners automatically think black people have to take CRAP from them JUST because we're ALL black. They feel like Black businesses don't flourish because black people are unsupportive of their own. CORRECT, that's so true in most cases, but how about this:

- Make sure you run your business in the proper manner
- Make sure the prices are comparable to that of neighboring minority businesses
- Make sure your products are fresh
- Make sure your establishment is clean
- Make sure your attitude is pleasent.

The house negro mentality exist far too often in most black owned business, where they treat their own with disdain, while rushing to the aid of 'others'. They expect the most from us, while giving us the least and when we complain we're being 'unsupportive.' PLEASE... JUST GET IT RIGHT!!!

Beautiful Kisses

Kissing! Four lips pressing against each other doesn't really sound amazing, but there is this magic...this chemistry that starts with that union. Great loves and lovers have acknowledged the truth of them through a kiss.

One of my most memorable kisses was with this guy I'd dated about a year or so ago (I've mentioned him in two other post). We'd gone on about 3 dates by the time he said..."I've been thinking about kissing you and I can't wait any longer" (wow...I love a man who takes his time, but knows his limits...lol). Now, I'm going to breakout this special moment:

Time: it was about 11:00 p.m on a weekday

Obstical: (things always seem better when you've got to overcome something to get it) my neighbor was on the porch with some of his friends...they were all about 18 and I wasn't comfortable sitting in front of my door kissing on him with them looking.

Excitment: there's something kinda wonderful when you've waited for that first kiss from someone special. This had just a lil extra for me since he then had to drive around looking for the perfect spot to press his lips against mine.

Location: location, location, location...is everything...set the mood. It was dark and quiet...right around the corner from my house.

The Moment: he parked, we sat quiet with these stupid looks on our faces (looking ahead) we then turned to each other (still looking real stupid) he moved in, I giggled (OH BE QUIET) then it happened...for about 15 seconds....NICEEEEEE!

Afterward: I told that rotten son-of-a-beep to never call me again...LOL. Just kidding (It took me a minute to get to that), but we went back to my house (the boys were gone) so he asked..."can I kiss you again...since noone's around" I said yes and smiled.

What's your most memorable kiss? Enjoy the video...it's a beautiful ending to a beautiful kiss and the start to a wonderful weekend.

p.s -this would SERIOUSLY be considered as my wedding song (if the Lord allows).

...But what if I don't like my child!

-what if after all my hard work they've grown unappreciative and selfish?
-what if after all my teachings and training they've come to think they know more or better then me?
-what if they've got this air about them that I can't seem to stand?
-what if they're sneaky or lazy or liars?
-what if in all their good they just seem to annoy me?
What if my child has turned into a young person i just don't like...how do I love?

Wow, that's some serious business! There are billions of people in the world with an equal amount of character combinations most of which may turn a stomache, rub a wrong way, or just make you leave them alone; our children are no different. There amongst those same numbers. They develope their own views and ways of thinking; in their pre-teens you noticed they didn't like what you liked and a "strange" personality surfaced.

Raising children is a piece of cake, but raising young adults is liver & onions. I have entered a full course liver, onion and lima beans buffet and I HATE lima-beans.
This post was triggered by a lil personality "glitch" exhibited by my oldest son and It made me think about all the things parents have to endure when their babies start to grow up... the attitudes that need adjusting, the displaced and misplaced dispositions. What is a human (naturally flawed being) to do? Here's what i've come up with...just some things to think about.

-Identify the specific behaviors.
-Explain the affect they have on you.
-Where did these ways come from; maybe they got your temper instead of your eyes!
-Is there something you could have done to steer them in a different direction?

After giving serious thought to the above, it becomes necessary to seperate "you" the person from "you" the parent, in order to maintain your sanity while carring out God's mission in allowing you to bring forth these fruit.

TAGGED AGAIN!!!

I was tagged by Ingrid to do this flashback into my life, so here you guys go...AND YOU'D BETTA NOT LAUGH! The layout isn't good, but this is BabyMe: I was a 1-year-old and my mom had gotten this picture taken at Sears...they thought I was such a precious baby they used this pic as their promotional display baby (so I was a model in my early years...LOL)













Swings i'm seven and you can tell by my black knees that I was a straight up tomboy...sticks and bricks baby...lol. Thats my little brother next to me...he was three and precious.


This mili-vanille pic-I'm 18 and obviously on crack to have even THOUGHT I was trying to be sexy, but oh well...you live and you learn.





This is me the teen-mom and my oldest son who was a year-old. DON'T TALK ABOUT ME!!!

This is me at about 26 at that's my sister who was about 20/21...yeah, I was STILL kinda boyish, but SO WHAT!!!

and that's ALLL folks. I DARNED not show my High School Grad pic's...cause then I'd have to cill-ya!

HAVE A WONDERFUL HOLIDAY WEEKEND!!!

NO BAD NEWS!!!

As stated in that lil personality test post from last week; i'm VERY loyal to my friends and can't stand to see or hear drama in their lives...I take it so personally. I get aggravated and frustrated when they make seemingly bad decisions...I just go crazy and then comes the tough love...and boy is it tough...so if you're going to be my friend...don't bring me NO BAD NEWS!!!




(OK, YOU GOT ME...I JUST WANTED TO POST THIS CLIP...LOL, I LOVES IT)

P.S...PLEASE CHECK OUT SOJOURNER AND MIZ'S PAGE TODAY AND EVERY MONDAY!!! (SEE FOR YOURSELF)