Wednesday, February 13, 2008

A TEENAGE LOVE

Good Morning Boys and Girls!

A Teenage Love

“…everything seems so great at the startFor she loves him, and he also loves herAnd it's hard to turn back to who the person you wereBut later on, problems start to occurAnd the bond, which combines, y'all turns into a blurFor the feelings were the same, now here's the scoreYou love them to much, and they don't love you anymore”
(Slick Rick – A Teenage Love)

Awwww…poor Mr. Slick was probably a party of a broken heart, his or hers, but what can be expected from a “Teenage Love” LOVE – what does this word REALLY mean…who can best define it (certainly not I), but I know I don’t believe in “Love” at first sight or childhood emotions attempting to subsist in an adult world.

With the exception of Love and Basketball’s, “I’ve loved you since I was 11 years-old and the shit just won’t go away” – childhood “love” doesn’t really last, nor do I think it ever really existed…what can a child truly know about love – that grown folk emotion; Ok, I’m being a little facetious, but with a hint of minty-truth.

Can a person who expressed feelings as a child still have them as an adult? (Don’t answer that yet.)

I’ve found that the average person doesn’t really come to know or understand themselves until they’ve entered late twenties/early thirties, so what may have been known of oneself or that love interest probably no longer exist.

Like money, love just seems to be tossed around so frivolously which leaves a trail of hurt feelings and misunderstandings about the reality of love. Like bonds (money related – lol), love is best when it matures.

If you’ve ever loved a child as a child (no R. Kelly stuff), you’ll need to pretty much forget the past part of them and begin to learn what you’ve never known...then you can love (again, maybe).

Feel free to ask the above question NOW! Then check out the video.

17 comments:

Opinionated Diva said...

Deeeeeeeeep girl. As soon as I saw the title I thought of Slick Rick! lol

I don't believe in love at first sight either. To me, those that fall IN love that fast, are the same folk who fall OUT of love with the quickness.

Do I believe in teenage love? I think there are exceptions to the rule, but as a whole? No I do not - I think it comes with maturity as well.

Ticia said...

love the post..

You are right.. I didn't know myself and understand things fully until 26... LOL-- its the truth....

Consistently Inconsistent... said...

Okay, so I am approaching the age where I should understand things... good thing I was beginning to think I was lost.


Anyway, I agree you love is tossed around like money which is why the world and hearts..are in a deficit.

Mizrepresent said...

Well, i found my first love when i was a child, a teen...and being that it was a wonderful and yet painful experience it also set the standards for what i expected in future relationships...that first love is so pure, so free of what others think, just based upon pure emotion...mature love takes into account other things, financial, compatibility, goals, religion, work ethics...all the things that can possibly make or break a relationship...the wonderful thing about young love, is that is is the purest of love to me, because it speaks of all that the bibles speaks of love...It's something that even as adults we should not discount, because this is the type of love that will get you over many humps...it is not frivolous at all...it is in fact deeply emotional, and from the heart. To say a child doesn't know what love is, is such an understatement, that are marriages today that began at 12, 15, 17 and still exist, because they got it. My grandparents stayed married and in love for over 50 years, because they got it...it's not a fallacy, it is and can be real...at least that's what i hope, that's what i believe...but then again...i am a hopeless romantic...and i wear that title proudly.

Sojourner G said...

The real question is can you fall out of love if it was ever "true" love. [No I ain't answering that]

I do believe there are a lot of things that can affect the relationship between two people. If you start young and stay reasonably together (through all the obstacles and events of growing up), love can grow and be strengthened. We've all heard of people marrying (and staying with) their childhood sweetheart.

I just think there are too many variables to say absolutely one way or the other. We all have different personality make-ups, different experiences, different events in our lives that shape us, and even different definitions of what love is.

I would never say that a child or young person doesn't know love because they are not old enough to understand. Even a baby doesn't need to know that his stomach is empty, digestive acids are churning and pain resulting to KNOW he's hungry. He just is.

Every Journey begins with one step. Who defines the step? Love is love to the person expericing it at the time, whether it lasts, is ill advised, is premature, is "real" in the eyes of others or not.

JustMeWriting said...

Miz & G: you guys are so right, but at the same time we're constantly evolving and dealing with KNOWING (Learning) ourselves...understanding how to love ourselves...and to bring another person in prematurely can be a problem; of course they are exceptions to any/every rule, and just as there are couple who've stayed together for half a life time, there are also those who've met, married and divorced in short periods of time because they THOUGHT they knew themselves enough to love a mate.

It's a very complicated thing.

Sojourner G said...

Ultimately, that's my point. There is no hard and fast rule that applies to everyone. Love develops quickly and permanently for some and slowly, with faults for others.

I might suck at math and barely get through algebra. Another person just like me...or younger flies through calculus. There's so much that goes into it.

In the end, we all must make our own way, take our best shot and live with whatever comes of our efforts.

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

did u hear about R Kelly today, another one is added to the list. great post.

Ms. Behaving said...

Damn @ that video...
Now that was a blast from the past :-)

I don't believe in love @ first sight and I even have a hard time believing that there is such a thing as teenage love...

What I do think [and I'm speaking from experience here] is that a lot of teenagers make the mistake of confusing LUST for love.

deepnthought said...

I think that there are instances of true love at first sight. My parents both said that they knew each other was something when the looked at each other.
I think I experienced something more than lust as a child. He died before I turned 18. So, I can never know how far it would have gone. We were bf/gf in preschool all through high school.

Shai said...

I agree with Miz and Sojourner. My first love was as a teen. It shaped what I want even after 20 years. Just because we don't know ourselves does not mean we cannot love another even in marriage. Marriage is a growing up and maturing. Sometimes we need another that influences our growth. So to way that we must know ourselves to stay and love someone is limiting the possiblities.

Shai said...

Oh, yeah I forgot to stay most love at first sight is just lust to me.

CapCity said...

DAYUM Big Daddy Kane was FOINE back then! ;-)

KIKI said...

You just come back with the hard-hittin stuff, dont cha?LOL

I've typed 3 different answers to this & I just cant do it without writing my own dang on post! So I'll just say that I'm aggreance with Miz & Soj. I've loved someone as an adult that I loved as a child...and no, it's not the same kind of love. It's a love that "matures". If you think about it, that first "teenage" love we usually consider our best friend. If you can maintain that friendship, who better to make your lover?

cordieb said...

- Phillips Brooks

No one falls in love by choice,
> it is by CHANCE.
> No one stays in love by chance,
> it is by WORK.
> And no one falls out of love by chance,
> it is by CHOICE

—Unknown author

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(1)

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O'er the fields we go,

Laughing all the way;

Bells on bobtail ring,

Making spirits bright;

What fun it is to ride and sing

A sleighing song tonight!

(Refrain:) Jingle, bells! Jingle, bells!

Jingle all the way!

Oh! What fun it is to ride in a one-horse open sleigh!

(2)

Now the ground is white,

Go it while you're young;

Take the girls tonight,

And sing this sleighing song.

Just get a bob-tailed bay,

Two-forty for his speed;

then hitch him to an open sleigh,

And crack! You'll take the lead.

~~~by aoc powerlevewling

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