Wednesday, March 21, 2007

What Men Want!?!?!?!!?

I saw this artical on Yahoo this morning and just wanted to share the MEAT... lol. Seems like they might be on point, but of course I'd like some feed from you guys and gals...here are the basics:

When a man falls for a woman he falls HARD. (yeah, we know that already...lol). Men LOVE to be in love (Ohhhh really now...could have fooled me). A man's stomach churns like a slushy machine when he's in those initial stages of the perfect relationship (awwwwww...itsn't that cute...BUT IT'S WRONG...LOL. just kidding).

What makes a man fall in love? The obvious laws of chemistry, attraction and being in the right place at the right time kicks off the relationship. NOW... what makes him STAY in love??? 60% of men deem friendship the most important...while SEX comes in at 8% (WHAT!!!....I've been giving it away for NOTHING...LOL. just kidding).

What kind of woman does a man REALLY want? (drumroll please)
a) A Woman with a Passion in Something Other Than Him.
Why? The passion she shows for something else confirms her inherent goodness, her personal drive, her independence. All pluses in the woman men are hoping to spend a few decades with.

b) A Woman with No Problem with Guy Time.
Even when with the most perfect woman, men still crave the occasional space to spend time doing whatever with buddies. Men love, appreciate, and are thankful for women who respect and endorse (AND NOT COMPLAIN ABOUT) his need to have guy time (aka "away from you" time) .

c) A Woman with a Strut. (hummmmm...very interesting)
Strut??? It's the attitude, that sassiness, that confidence, that charisma, that charm that shows she can be a little bold and a little daring. There's a line between woman being confident and a woman being so aggressive that it turns men away, but in certain aspects men want women who have the strut. Men want to be with a woman who challenges them...push them...take the lead sometimes, as true in the bedroom as in planning their weekend getaway. (OOOOHHHHHLALA!)
STRUT WARNING!!!!!!! : Do NOT use your strut in OTHER PLACES...ie, to flirt with other guys; to become a relationship dictator, or to pick a fight with his mom in front of the whole family (wow...lol...that's some bad struting). He'll point that strut right out the door.

d) A Woman with good taste in ties. (WHAT?)
Okay not ties per se, but what's cared about is a woman's ability to give a LITTLE, GENTLE guidance. Freudian followers will say that it's a man's need to be mothered, but guys will definately take women who can warn them when they look stupid and help them make decisions without being harsh and judgmental. Woman who can help steer them without aggressively grabbing the wheel, are the most treasured copilots.

AND THERE YOU HAVE IT... and with all that said...WHY AM I NOT MARRIED YET????? LOL. Well what do you guys think....is this true??? Ladies...what do you think... what part(s) of these might be the hardest to maintain???

18 comments:

Anonymous said...

We want a girl who is into the NCAA torney and not into dumb shows like FRIENDS and Sex in the City. A girl who drinks beer right from the can and can cook a good steak.

LP said...

I read this article and I found it interesting......but some things not believable. I think that it depends on the man......as to what makes them interested or want to fall in love

Anonymous said...

Men want women base on were they are in life....If they want to play they want someone up for the challenge!!!

hamil10 said...

My father told me once, ...

"Baby girl... you got it bad. I wish you were a boy, not that I don't love you. But I don't envy a woman's lot. You have to wear so many hats... woman and confidante to your husband without being condescending, a lady in company and whore in bed... a mother to your children and sometimes to him." words from me fadduh.

I believe that most of that is true. As far as what makes men fall or stay in love I think its similar to what it takes for women, but men don't have as much leave-way as women to express it. Most of us (male and female) I believe would like someone who benefit from knowing us as much as we can benefit from knowing them... someone who can adds to and compliments our personality... and can cook a good steak and drink beer from a bottle. I was known to take a 40 to the head in my day... thank God those days are over... but n-e-waize.

I think when a person (male & female) is with someone with whom they feel valued and respected and feel no fear of rejection they will make themselves open to give and receive the best love has to offer.

Shai said...

I kinda agree with Hamil10's faduh. LOL.

I do agree with the part about a man wanting a woman who has a passion besides him. Yes, he wants to be her passion just not her only passion cause then he will see her as too needy and dependent on him. I learned that the hard way.

These days I don't know if some men even want to fall in love. With the player mentality society seems to glorify, why love when many find playing games more fun?

Sunshine said...

After reading this article this morning, I came to the conclusion that men & women want the same thing. 1- A man that is concerned aboout her, but has his own stuff going on. 2- A man that realizes that I need to spend time with my girls!! 3-A man that not only talks the talk, but also WALK the WALK!!!
4-A man that has good taste in shoes & DIAMONDS!!!!!

JustMeWriting said...

OK... everybody is so on point. I think the most important things are #1) man that clingyness will drive ANYBODY CRAZY.. I can't STAND a man who's ONLY reason for living is ME.. that actually kinda scary.
#4)(one of my works in progress)the balance between nurturing without OVER mothering him. Sometimes we let them go it alone TOO MUCH.. and sometimes NOT ENOUGH.

CapCity said...

I agree with everyone - but I'll just be glad to put all this into ACTION. I'm so tired of trying to figure it out on paper:-). So, God willing I can soon put my strut to the test! I don't cook nor eat steak, but I know the greatest restaurants where u can order one! LOL!
Thanx for the post SistahJMW!

JustMeWriting said...

HAHAHAHAH... I know that's right capcity, IMPROVISE!!! What a way to strut...I can't say I can cook a good steak either and I wouldn't know where to go for one....so I'd have made him eat cake...lol so thank you for the lesson (if you can't cook it...go where they can).

thank you for your input!

Lance said...

i think the key is for one to be themselves and for each other (male/female) to get into the other's lives if allowed too, but not to dictate, but there for support.

how can you go wrong if you both are on the same page in life and love? it'll work itself out.

JustMeWriting said...

YES.. that's so very page, about needing to be on the same page.
thanks for your comment lance.

CortneyGee said...

I like this blog post ... thanks for writing it.. I know Im a simple creature .. I love a woman that knows how to feed me f*ck me and leave me the f*ck alone. Sometimes she's a complete dime piece to look at sometimes she ain't the finest thing to visualize... but she always has the 3 F's as a foundation... of course I'm like that for her as well ... fair exchange is no robbery

Mizrepresent said...

This was very interesting...and yes i'm taking notes...even though in the end, or the long run, i'm gonna be me dammit! Digging your blogs....girlfriend!

JustMeWriting said...

LOL...DAG, CG: just like that huh...the 3 f's...we'll I think I can handle 2 of the f's, and I'm not telling which 2...lol.
thank you for your comment and compliment.

miz: YES.. that's ALL we can do is be US...it's too draining trying to switch or even knowing WHEN to switch. but you you know I've printed this out to remind THEM...lol
thank you much lady for your comment and compliment.

Anonymous said...

I think you hit the nail on the head....

Anonymous said...

I think you hit the nail on the head....

Philly's Finest said...

I think falling in love is a mystery. There's no right or wrong thing to do. It happens when it's suppose to happen. You can have the right strut, look or passion if the chemistry is not right it will not work. I am sure you guys have seen the finest man with a woman that doesn't measure up to what we think his standards should be. And we have all asked ourselves what is he doing with her. Well it isn't the sex, food and certainly not the looks. But my guess is it's the chemistry.

JustMeWriting said...

YOU GOT THAT RIGHT PHILLY'S FINEST (WHO ARE YOU ANYWAY) LOL....SIKE!